Having just become an authorised marriage celebrant it’s only natural that marrying couples who are in love is the main intention.
During the course we covered every legal nuisance that is a marriage celebrants obligation to uphold.
The couple must think about time, place, location, guests, clothes, theme… you name it there are hundreds of things to decide.
The celebrant needs to know how to fill out the forms and where to send them. Who signs what and who witnesses those signatures. The celebrant needs to learn what the couple want to share and how they want it shared.
One of the most beautiful aspects of a marriage is the saying of the vows to each other.
There are the mandatory vows which have to be said in the presence of the celebrant and two witnesses, and the vows have to be spoken to each other.
There are hundreds, no thousands of possible vows couples can choose to make to each other. Vows that proclaim love, kindness, playfulness, tidiness, acceptance, respect, faithfulness and support.
And we say these promises to another with all our heart on that special day.
BUT who among us has imagined marrying yourself? Who of us has fallen in love with who we are and appreciated who and what we have become? Who of us has promised to be kind to yourself no matter what mistake we make? Have you promised to cook a nourishing dinner for yourself at least once a week because you are worth the effort?
Have you set the table for yourself and put on some beautiful music as you sip a glass of your favorite drink and slowly enjoyed the most delicious meal…. alone? Have you vowed not to get too stressed, to go sleep at a reasonable time, to make your bed every day and to sit quietly in nature appreciating the gift you are to yourself and to others?
I’m all for marrying couples who are in love but I’m also exploring what it might mean to marry yourself regardless of whether we marry someone else or not.